
Your Parenting On Purpose Toolbox
This is where I share weekly tools and strategies to help support you both as a parent, and in living your best life — so you can be an example of what's possible for your kids.
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Are you a parent that looks forward to summer and your kids being out of school, or does the lack of routine or change in schedule fill you with overwhelm or even dread?  In full transparency, I was one of the latter. The end of the school year was always bittersweet. Yes, it was nice to have a break from the early morning routine of getting the kids ready, lunches made, and making it to the bus on time — but there was ...
I connected with two of my child therapist friends this past week, and I took the opportunity to ask them what they want parents to know right now. They both had similar answers but one rose to the top.  As child therapists, they wish parents would relax and stop catastrophizing.
Phones are ringing off the hook for child therapists everywhere — my friends included. Parents are anxious and scared, and they are taking al...
Are you in the final countdown, pushing through to the end of the school year?Â
Traditionally, this is a hectic time of year for many parents — All of the end of the year activities, awards, final parties, field trips, playoffs, recitals… It can be overwhelming for even the most organized of parents! I had one mom wonder recently if she was the only one wishing her son’s team didn’t make the playoffs because she had no...
Do you feel like parenting is harder than ever right now? That’s what I’m hearing — Parents are telling me that it’s HARD with a capital H, and they are floundering. Parents desperately want to be able to help their kids, but they don’t know how.
Here’s what I’m hearing:
I don’t know what to do
I don’t know where to start
I don’t know what questions to askÂ
I don’t know if I have the skills for this
Have you ever had on...
As a parent, do you feel like your emotions can sometimes drive you to react in a way that you later regret? When your kids are fighting and emotions are high, do you get sucked into their emotional vortex? Alternatively, if they are super excited or happy, can they help lift your mood too? This is no surprise — because as it turns out, emotions are more contagious than a cold or the flu. Â
Research has shown that bot...
Do you have questions about how to best support your child — About challenges they are experiencing, behavior issues, a decision or situation concerning school or other activities, or through these challenging times in general?
This past week I ran an Anxiety Workshop that was sponsored by the Parent Teacher’s Association in Georgetown, and there were a lot of questions from the parents. With mental health issues and a...
Do you have someone in your life that you turn to when things are challenging or hard? When you’re struggling and need support, who do you turn to? For me that person has always been my Mom, and I am beyond grateful for her. Â
My Mom is one of the strongest and most resilient women that I know. Her life wasn’t easy growing up — she lost her father when she was two, she lost her brother who she was very close with to a...
I’ve been talking about Parenting From Neutral a lot lately, but do you really know what it means and why it matters? I’ve mostly talked about how when you learn to Parent From Neutral, you take the heightened emotions of frustration, anxiety, and overwhelm out of your parenting process so you can calmly and effectively parent your best when your kids need you most.
But there is another factor to parenting from neutral ...
Have you ever wondered how to increase your child’s resilience?  Most parents would agree that they want to raise resilient kids, but they never really stop to think about what it is and how they might help their child develop this trait. It’s typically not top-of-mind until they are in the midst of a challenge. Given that we’ve been living through challenges on a global basis, the rising rates of mental health issues w...
Do you ever give your kids a High Five as a way to celebrate an achievement or encourage them to keep going? Â The power of high fives has been well documented in a number of studies, and since April 22nd is National High Five Day, I wanted to highlight the power of this great tool you can use with your kids.
In a study titled “High Fives Motivate”, published in Frontiers in Psychology, researchers split school-aged child...
When you make a mistake are you the first person to beat yourself up? If you’re like most of my clients (and many friends), you likely berate yourself for your mistake. Most parents want their children to develop positive self-talk and be kind to themselves, but that’s not what we model for them when we beat ourselves up. I have to teach my clients the power of having their own back, especially when they are working on c...
Do you find that as a parent you go from zero to sixty easily, and find yourself snapping or yelling more than you would like?  Emotions are running high as a collective, and our nervous systems are already on edge. Many parents are feeling like they’re hanging on by a thread, and any proverbial straw can break the camel’s back these days. Â
When I first start working with clients, I ask them to list the top three emoti...